I tell my boyfriend everything but he doesn t I want my partner to my best friend also. [new] I've known my boyfriend for almost three years. I don't have that many things that I feel that I need at my age either. Don't consider he was abused unless he tells you, being jumpy is a thing people are. He tells me he doesn't want to hurt me but if it goes like this he doesn't know. I don't know what to do at this point? He doesn’t want to leave the house and becomes less affectionate. 1. Most of the time, like a few minutes ago, I asked him what he was doing later and he told me he was going to be watching a game with his brother. I wasn't in the best place but i was dealing pretty well with my emotions at the time. It’s about staying fluid, spontaneous, and present. He is non-confrontational and while i do understand this, i can't help but be unhappy with being the person in the relationship whose job it is to "fix" the problem after a fight. He has a lot of support people in his life, (close family and friends of 20+ years from childhood). You are not. If he doesn’t respect your boundaries about sex that’s a red flag already. And if they don't try to ask questions to get to know you early on, don't bring it up, leave and don't date them My boyfriend (27) always makes plans without me knowing (25F). It makes me feel incredibly left out, or like I am not a part of his life with him. He Blames You for Everything. TL/DR - My (29F) boyfriend (28F) of 2 years says I don't know him at all and don't understand him. To do that, you have to use a concept called high value banter. I don't know what to do. ( Find out if he plans . I feel that I am trying hard but everything I do seems to be wrong and I don't know how to connect more and make him feel understood. Tl;Dr: i am 100% like you describe your boyfriend and none of those things are voluntary. He's everything I could ever ask for and more. It’s all about being able to settle arguments. As a man, i'm of the opinion no one gives a rat's ass about my plights and the ones who say they do in the moment will eventually find my expression a burden, think less of me then flip it on me and/or use what i say against me. He works hard and I admire that aspect of him. And I can’t believe your bf didn’t stop the friend from doing this. I’m posting here just because I don’t like talking bad about my boyfriend to anyone I know in real life. Actually, this is how things are gonna be for the next 2 years. He just doesn't know what else to do which is why he HAS to learn the skills to self soothe. He tells me he is really sorry but he doesn't know and if it goes this way he might take wrong decision. It's likely not a conscious decision on his end. I’ve (26 F) been dating my boyfriend (33 M) for 6 months. How To Tell He Doesn’t Love You Anymore – 27 Heartbreaking Signs He’s No Longer In Love With You And Doesn’t Want To Be With You Anymore. I immediately try to tell him that’s not true and remind him of all the good things he does for me and others. Not the “only me” part but if he is sure. For the last couple of months, it seems like he’s just lost interest or flat out doesn’t care. But remember, not talking about sexual intimacy doesn't make the issue disappear. I'm worried I may be overreacting or asking too much from my bf. My (27F) boyfriend (31M) and I have been together for a little under a year now and I just get the feeling he's not sexually attracted to me. You’ve been dating for a while now. He’s In College And Can’t Find A Job. He has told me he gets frustrated with my insecurities but he understands- although I don’t know if he’s just I told my current boyfriend that I loved him after like, 3 weeks, on accident. I don’t lie if my parents ask after my dating life but I don’t go into detail and I definitely never look forward to introducing my SO to them even though they’re very nice, kind, fun people. 5 years. With all this going on, it makes perfect sense why you might start to feel anxious, too. We tried to find different ways that we could make our relationship work in a way that wasn’t so damaging, but every option seems like one of us has to compromise too much, more than we emotionally can. The person doesn't consistently manage their medical conditions. “It might be in their wallet, on their desk, or somewhere more hidden than that He says it’s just not how he talks to them. 5 They Air Your Issues Out In Public . Eventually, she started seeing someone behind my back and broke up with me 9 months before our wedding and just weeks after closing on a house. Your partner doesn't have to use language that's obviously derogatory for the things they say to you to be unacceptable. He's getting the gf experience without having to do a thing. We stay open, talk from our own perspective; "what you say makes me feel like xyz" etc. Consider the following 21 signs. The whole conversation probably didn't do me any good. He never got me flowers and I felt like they wouldn't mean as much if I had to ask, which I know isn't true. Being someone's If your partner changes the topic, it’s no big deal. I explained that I don't want to have to explain every single thought that goes through my head on a morning to justify that I'm not annoyed at him all the time. Now, almost 6 months later, he is often much better at responding to stressors than me! :) So again, thank you all, you're the best! TLDR: my boyfriend regularly got really upset over minor inconveniences. Meh. "A sign that a partner is tolerating rather than accepting of Though mental health issues explain behavior, they don't justify abuse. I don't know how long you know each other, or how long you plan this relationship to last, but I feel like reassuring him (again assuming that he's me as I don't know him so I can only judge by my own standards), that you're there to listen, to express himself could (maybe Furthermore, even if he can, he's at work and in his work mindset, if he doesn't want to go on his phone he's really under no obligation to. He isn't that type of person so it doesn't come naturally for him and I understand that. Just because you guys are dating doesn’t mean you are entitled to know everything. Communication is, after all, one of the most My guess is that it's just because you're online. After three times he started low key raving about why does it matter, i’m in my way so I don’t need to tell exacts location. “People rarely experience the same intensity of emotions simultaneously My Boyfriend Doesn’t Have A Job And I Pay For Everything: When It’s Okay To Support Him 6. HOWEVER, we were like "That's weird right??" because it had been such a short time, we sat down and talked about it and realized that we are both very affectionate people with our friends and family and say "I love you" a lot, because we do. Yeahhh this told me everything I needed to know. But we live less than 10 minutes away from each other, and I haven’t seen him in over four months (and this has You don’t have to justify yourself or your feelings–you just have to let him know that he did something you don’t like and he needs to stop. You're telling your boyfriend about your day and he seems to be only half listening. Ultimately, it will impact the relationship. You don’t have to be cruel even if it’s not important to YOU. That being said, I know these romantic gestures come easy for me. I'm not good at faking that things are ok when they're not. If you want to know him better, ask him questions. My boyfriend [M29] doesn't know how to communicate his needs, and states I [F30] should just "know". Doing nothing at all doesn't help. Because 2 weeks ago when we were playing a game together he told me that I'm better than him, and we had a little "argument" (not really an argument but yk what i mean) i kept telling him that we're both equally good, and i mentioned to him like "but what if u think that u don't deserve me" and he said "i deserve you, noone can have you, you're Story isn't that long but the post is. Everytime I tell my boyfriend (26m) About something I’m excited or happy about he gets in a weird mood, I tell him I’m working out and trying to be more healthy and he tries to sabotage it by offering me soda, sweets, and ice cream. He understands me so well, would do anything for me, does lots of fun things with me, is attractive both on the inside and outside, and we pretty much never argue. Every time I bring this up as a reason to break up he says that we don’t have issues and that everything is perfect between us. You describe traits, but psychological help might be optimal. ) or later on from him or his family/friends. We usually talk about how our days went, the usual. He doesn’t compliment me anymore and never wants to spend any quality time with me. Still nowadays I don't know why he changed in such a short time. If your boyfriend is in college and finds it difficult to get a job during his study, then it’s He keeps things inside and keeps his distance for a while than comes around. Everything has been perfect and this is - hands down - the best He doesn’t know this - but this ONE very simple, unprompted, daily action makes my heart the TLDR - in disagreements, I feel like my boyfriend often says that things didn’t happen the way I say they did or that he didn’t say things to me when I just don’t think he sees things the way I do and tells me his side of a situation is what happened Reply reply More replies. (F/M 20s) [new] TL;DR - It feels like my boyfriend never wants to make an effort with me to plan things or do anything nice, I know it's something he's capable of, but for some reason when it comes to me he just doesn't want to put in the work. In my case it doesn’t have any creepy red flag type material, I just need to ask sometimes. Keeping your boundaries and being firm is the best way to get him to change his Nine times out of 10, you're going to want to be open with your partner and let them know what you're thinking, feeling, hoping for, and so on. So maybe that also adds to the fact that he doesn't talk about me. but he never gets me any. At least saying sorry and reaching out to make amends would show me he cares about my feelings and wants to do better. I did the exact same thing right before push came to shove and I had to enter treatment. The last time he posted was probably last year. I don't want to discourage you from going out and having a good time but if you could try to text me back that would make me feel a lot better. I tried to ask him why he suddenly "changed", but came to realise that he was showing a part of himself that I didn't have to succumb to. (He probably does know why but wouldn’t tell me to make sure he won’t hurt my feelings) If a guy does in fact want you whole heartedly this wouldn’t be happening. You can mute him preemptively when you start a movie so you don't even know he called until you're ready to respond. But if my husband asks what's going on and I tell him the friend doesn't want me to talk about it, he respects that. He is always honest with me but isn't straight forward. I am happy expressing my love all the time but he finds it overwhelming sometimes - he's not used to verbal expressions of love and actively dislikes feeling that he has to always say "I love you too" because of difficult past relationships. Quarantine sucks, your bf is probably playing games. Or you’ll be Mommy #2 for him for the rest of your lives. It's as simple as that. He did say it back. We both agreed that we wanted to be married before kids yeeeears ago (before anyone starts with maybe he doesn't want to get married). I feel like my boyfriend doesn't really know me, or want to know me at all. But if after going through How do I know if he loves me if he hasn’t said it yet? Are you asking yourself that question? Well, don’t worry about it because when I first started dating my boyfriend, I wondered how I could tell if he loved me too. he’s really great at showing his love for me and it’s very clear to me that he has very deep feelings for me. But more so about things I did or things I say I am going to do. Especially if all you want is for him to show up for a preplanned date or take an internet quiz. I don't expect him to do all those things for me, or the same way I do them. (Read this to mean he doesn't POST a lot, but he is ON Instagram a lot, sending me reels and posts via DM). Stay playful and avoid getting defensive or aggressive. Your conversations never inspired any real romantic tension. He doesn’t want to My boyfriend doesn't always say he loves me too if I say "I love you" - and vice versa. You seem to be his last Unfortunately, he doesn't have a trained ear (deaf more like it) and he can't understand what you're trying to tell him. He said “time and experiences. He isn't very open in general and say's that he want to deal with his problems on his own. Everytime I bring it up he just tells me he either forgot or thought he told me already (even if it is a big event, like a school party or otherwise). BUT, he just won't propose. And you love pampering him with gifts. He told you he will get over you just like he did everyone else, doesn’t mean he doesn’t care or love you. TLDR: my boyfriend says he loves me, but never shows me any affection, unless we’re having sex. You’ve not only misinformed Feel overwhelmed by how your boyfriend critiques everything you do? Learn the surprising reason behind his behavior and what to do next. Skip to content. I try to encourage him to talk to me, but he says talking about it just makes things worse. I would never tell my boyfriend "oh, I know my girlfriend doesn't think she holds a candle to me, something I wish I could help her with because I consistently wish I could be like her. An app like mSpy gives you access to your BF’s phone, from his old text messages If I told my partner I didn’t fucking CARE about his achievements in video games we would not be together any longer. We've been together for 2 years. If he cared about this relationship then he would out in the effort. He’s probably realizing you love him and he doesn’t which is why he is questioning you, to try to make you initiate some discussion and give him an easy way out. “Your Friends Don't Really Care About You” Isolating you from I think this shows exactly that people just need to communicate these type of expectations to their partners. Yeah, he COULD be, but he may just not know what you want to hear. Anyway, my bf posts nothing at all. He says “I really do” and then I go about my day. When I’m reading a book he doesn’t bother to ask what I’m reading. From my few partners I made that observation at least. You might feel small, embarrassed, or even inadequate in the relationship. ” I started thinking maybe he doesn’t find me interesting. My boyfriend is private like that too, and I don't like it either. "Partners don’t tolerate you per se but rather your behavior," Dr. Some people just don't do online very well, especially with small talk. I find nightly calls repetitive; I feel like everyones life in general is repetitive day-to-day and it's hard to find new things to talk about when you're asked "how was your day". You don’t know if this situation will make you My boyfriend doesn’t like talking about issues that come up in our relationship. Each of these actions reflects emotional commitment and the desire to be a true On this week's sex advice column, experts give out advice to someone whose boyfriend doesn't tell them anything about his life. Be patient and wait to see what the root of the problem is. It may be He can probably just move back in with Mommy and Daddy if you guys get evicted or he doesn’t find a job. He will then say he doesn’t want to talk about it. has reappeared in my life and I don't know what to do! My boyfriend has been extremely busy and tired because of uni. " Also I don't know what he does when he goes out but if it's some sort of a busy activity he might just be Everything he said or did was meant with love, and I could even tell the way he looked at me that he loved me very much. If you don't tell him what you want or need, he can't read your mind and figure it out. I love touching her, I love holding her. This will last about a day or two. Let's explore 11 critical behaviors a loving, present, and invested boyfriend should demonstrate. We almost always go 50-50. But he lets me post whatever. He works 70 hours a week. Just seems like your bf is private about his relationships. He said, When you tell someone you love them and they don’t say it back, it’s important to remember that everyone is different. I know you’re thinking “he does love me” but this guy sounds like he doesn’t even love himself. When we met, it was glaringly obvious that he'd tried more things than me. If you feel like “my boyfriend points out everything I do wrong,” then you probably know how exhausting it gets to constantly be on the defensive. You Are "Everything" To Your Partner. Like everything aligns. If I break up with him I will be completely crushing the heart of someone who is extremely important to me. In retrospect, he did amazing things for me: he completely cleaned, vacuumed, and detailed my disgusting car, he cleaned out my elderly grandparents refrigerator, scrubbed it, and stocked it with fresh foods, he cooked and did chores often, etc, but I didn't read those actions as acts of love even though they were, and he didn't recognize my need for regular 1 on 1 quality time [24/f] My boyfriend [23/m] doesn't initiate anything. so ive (22f) been with my boyfriend (20m) for almost 3 months now, so it’s a pretty new relationship. I don’t know. Also, this isn’t even really “bad” necessarily but still, if’s unfair to him to start saying this about him to other people who know us. When your partner is upset but won't admit it or tell you why, it can be frustrating. Archived post. I don’t want people to know” then you start worrying. If he thinks he can still get away with it he will start acting like the victim when you say it. Recently, for the past couple months I have felt no love what so ever. Recently we had our anniversary dinner and he suggested we split the check, which some of my friends think is a red flag. I know my boyfriend is very self centered and often tries to act like he knows everything even on topics that I If he says it's nothing to do with me or us should I believe him? I'm sorry for so many questions, but I'm kind of freaking out here - I'm not used to people refusing to talk to me at all and I really want to be supportive while also having boundaries, but I don't know how to do that. You've tried your best to do everything you can do to improve the situation - remain calm, give each other space, don't overreact, step away and try to approach the conversation again when emotions aren't running high - and unfortunately he's still approaching things in a horrible way and it's leaving you both with Even if your bf did tell his friend everything, that doesn’t give the friend the right to weigh in with you, on a personal matter between you and your bf. Then once he starts to feel better I ask if he wants to talk about it and he says that talking about it will only bring back the negative feelings. My bf is a lot less active on Instagram. But he doesn’t reciprocate. Explain why defensiveness is a problem. You're listing things that you want him to do, but he doesn't understand the reason why so he creates the reason in his head. To help you navigate this challenge, several He says he wants to be more affectionate because he doesn’t want to lose me, but I don’t want him to do that if it doesn’t come naturally to him. I was on the boyfriend side of something like this for a long time and didn’t even know it. i fell for him so fast and me and him have so much fun together and he makes me really happy. But he just doesn’t get it and keeps saying he’ll get you flowers then if you’re He doesn't listen to you, he doesn't ask about your life, he doesn't care. As Henry says, the physical and mental side effects of an unbalanced relationship include a dip in your sex But I don't want that, I don't even have any desire to find out what it would be like with anyone else. Claiming you’re in the wrong/too sensitive/he was just helping. Also my boyfriend hides things from me too and again I don't necessarily think he is cheating but it hurts that he doesn't want to be honest with me. My (32F) boyfriend (39M) and I have been living together for the past 9 months. I know this may seem a bit silly but it honestly concerns me. I tell him that we should resolve it instead of just sweeping it Last Updated on March 11, 2024 by Angela Vaz. One of the common problems women face in their relationships is when their partners don't follow through -- examples: he says he will call, but he doesn't, he says he will text, but he doesn't, or My gf and I talk about everything. Anything important, anyway. It’s frustrating when your boyfriend says you don’t understand him. Once I finally get him to stop the self-hatred, I try to bring it back to what we were originally talking about. Even if I don’t understand it, I’m happy for him. I send him nudes, porn links, try on outfits, do things I know he likes, but he never really does seem enthusiastic about me. You might ask him, “How do I understand you, or what do you mean by it?” and he won’t say I’m always down for it, and I like lingerie but don’t wear it because my boyfriend doesn’t care for it too much, which left me feeling silly if I wanted to surprise him one night. Reply reply more replies More replies. Tell him he’s the only one you’re comfortable spilling you’re heart out to. We still have them, but I don’t know— are there relationships out there that are much more naturally easy flowing AND healthy? I’m sure. If he starts saying “don’t post us. I guess what I'm trying to say is the crazy rush of new love doesn't mean someone is "the one On the other hand I believe you don't tell him everything about you either, like how you don't trust him and went through his phone. And what do I do then? I have no experience navigating anything like this and I'm really scared. Or you're sharing a story about your Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for two years now and it's been wonderful. But if a friend confides in me and wants to vent about something or get advice or whatever, but doesn't want me to tell anyone, then that's not MY secret to tell. When me (20F) and my boyfriend (23M) started dating he showed lots of affection and spent time with me. My (25F) boyfriend (28M) and I have been together for 9 months and I am feeling less like a priority in his life. He's telling you clearly: I like being around you. We are very compatible, career-driven people who see eye to eye on most things. I do pester him for answers though, so I guess I don't really have much advice :/ I feel like you deserve to know some small details though. I ask my boyfriend this all the time. Top 1% Rank by size . If you need to hear something different, you have to communicate that to him. If this is jumbled, might I don't know if it's just defaulted to be my job to keep track of things like this because I'm the sort of the relationship manager, but it does frustrate me. I’ve never said no to sex and he has said no countless times, I don’t want to initiate because I He says I’m too nice to argue with and I’m really good to him and his dog but he doesn’t know why he can’t decide. However, if he gets defensive during a serious and important conversation, the issue remains unresolved. Everything started off really well, we would see each other often, talk/text every day, and seemed to genuinely enjoy each other’s company. According to relationship experts, these are signs that your partner might not be enough for you, even if you love them. My boyfriend doesn't actively make an effort to make me feel worth it, or special. He won't compliment me but he'll compliment his friend/ex fwb. Calling a partner "pathetic," "stupid," or telling them to "fuck off He is boring himself, and doesn’t know how to take part in playful, fun conversation. the problem is, i don’t feel understood by him. If you find yourself thinking, “My boyfriend doesn’t love me anymore,” it may be because it seems like he doesn’t care about you or the relationship. He never says I love you unless I say it first. My boyfriend of 3 years is extremely inattentive (among other things). Wanting to know what's up is totally relatable but he has to know how he can count on you. I mean, I don't just find it "good enough": I love it. Personally I'd hate it if my bf would randomly buy me items he doesn't 100% know that I really want or need, buying useless things is not good for the environment or your wallet and would go against my values and he knows that. I absolutely love and adore her and I plan to spend the rest of my life with her but to think that she is my one and only or something won’t go wrong down the line is very naive. I’m saying this from experience because my ex was the exact same. If he raises his voice calmly tell him; Don’t do that, I don’t appreciate you raising your voice like that at me. I’d tell him you’re going out with friends and can’t talk etc. This one is pretty obvious, but if your partner still keeps photos of their ex around, they’re not over them. Here are reasons they may act that way, as well as tips to get them to open up. Reddit what should I do? TLDR I cook and clean for my bf but he doesn't appreciate it. But he seems to be frugal, I recently noticed that he doesn’t pick up tab when we dine out or order in. I talked with him about it, and asked him one day how he gets to know people. Usually, I'm a pretty laid back person. I found out last night that I passed a really important test, He is nice and helpful and patient with me for the most part, and I don't think that he's a bad person or a bad boyfriend. This means that valentine's day, our anniversary, my birthday, and lots of other events have gone on the last year and he did not post about me/us. You want to have a baby and you have to figure things out soon. He cherishes the present moments with you and genuinely cares about your well-being, but if he isn’t seeing a shared future, it could indicate that while he loves you deeply as a person, he isn’t romantically in love with you. Every night, my boyfriend calls me after work to just chat. He told me he just doesn't feel comfortable mixing his two circles. I say this as the husband of a full-figured woman: the only thing about her that is unsexy is the fact that she doesn't take my compliments seriously. TLDR: my boyfriend has been in a bad mood for 4-5 days. Anyways, I’m 21 and he’s 20, and we’ve been together for Summary: should I break up with my boyfriend if he doesn’t have a job? Your boyfriend not having a job doesn’t necessarily mean you should break up with him, as it’s not as black and white as that. Don’t push it and let him have his personal space. He likes you and gets on with you, but doesn't actually understand what romantic love is. Why Can't My Boyfriend Remember the Things I Tell Him I Like, My Family Stories, and Things Like That? We've all been there. 13 Key Signs of an Emotionally Unstable Partner 8. You’re wondering, “My boyfriend never buys me anything” and For example, you try to tell your boyfriend that it’s not that you want him to buy you flowers, you just want him to care enough to buy you flowers. Let me point you in the right direction _^ To most guys, you're still a little vague. Stop doing everything for him, and stop saving his bacon. He says he has fucked up, he regret everything, he doesn't know what to do, don't feel anything, he doesn't know who who are there anymore. It bothers me because it feels I tell my partner almost everything BUT it doesn't all come out at once. When I got to work, I messaged him saying I wasn't mad at him, but I am irritated now because I really don't like that he doesn't believe me and I feel like he isn't listening to what I'm saying. He has been honest with me about his battles with OCD, and My boyfriend [28M] of 1 year forgets very often about important things I [27F] tell him and is giving me the the impression that he doesn't care about what I have to say. If he doesn’t understand my thing, he’s happy for me. I'm a 26 year old woman and my boyfriend is 28. But when I ask him to put more effort in, he gets defensive and says he doesn't know where this is coming from. Been seeing my partner for technically 6 months now and He makes me laugh a lot and supports my business venture. Jess Carbino, the sociologist for dating app Bumble, tells Bustle. I think it’s weird that since we’ve been dating he has not mentioned me once to his best friend. We don’t fight much, I do things he doesn’t really care for at times too. 13. I can tell her something even about her, we know how to communicate about things, even the worst. I am always the one to ask him questions about his day and what he’s working on but he doesn’t really have much curiosity towards my life or my daily experiences. You might wonder whether he’s as committed to the relationship as you are. My boyfriend told me he loved me essentially the same day he asked me to be his girlfriend (we'd been very good friends for two years before that). I don't get irritated or angry very easily. I'm also scared he's going to tell me he doesn't think he loves me anymore. My boyfriend didn't grow up with too much of a birthday celebration, so I had to teach him that birthdays are a fun big deal. I get him gifts for these things because I love him and want to make him smile etc. Everyone fights, and you’re not going to stop. I don’t tell my friends everything, but I do sometimes tell things that should probably be private. Im insecure and he doesn’t say I love you a lot so sometimes I just ask. Has he had a memory transplant? I There's many reasons why men don't express their problems, but the main one is we've been burned before so we choose to stay shut. Apple and Google’s tracking apps let you know where your boyfriend is, but they don’t provide much more information beyond that. My boyfriend doesn’t buy me things. I don’t he’s being disgenuine. He works a 12 hour shift, of course he's busy -- and on his breaks he probably needs some heavy detox time so he can make it through. We've been together for 6 happy years, but over the past year or two I've found increasingly that I'll get irritated about really menial things, which sometimes It bothers me because it feels like there is a lot I am missing, or there is more that I don't know of. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and he is amazing. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year and I don’t know how much he makes or earns yearly. It's confusing and heartbreaking. My boyfriend essentially had to say, look, I don't know what else to do here for you but something has to change. But if my mom was causing my partner so much distress, I'd be damn angry about it. Well, we’re here to help. Don’t take it to heart, just ask him to listen to your stuff for 5 mins. It's more about how you tell your partner than whether or not you He forgets things. 🙂 By the way, if you want support in developing your self confidence and self esteem, or if you find yourself If he doesn’t constantly tell you how hot and beautiful you are but does occasionally make comments on specific things chances are high these things come from the heart. More posts My (31f) boyfriend (46m) doesn’t really show much of an interest in my life. You can't communicate with the guy. I know I need to break up with him but it's so hard - I keep thinking of reasons that his feelings might change, or that he just doesn't love me back "yet" but I've done enough reddit searches to know that it isn't going to happen if he doesn't love me after a year. Somethings are private We both have a future we've planned together. I don’t even know why he thinks it’s healthy when we argue 95% of the time. I'm also afraid to leave me, because if I do I might realize that he really is the one that I could spend my life with. I'm pretty talkative when it comes to my people (both non-romantic and romantic relationships) but being the only I’ve backed off, he’s come through because I know he doesn’t want to lose me, only to slip back to where we left off. Also, it's his money, he works for it he's allowed to buy himself whatever he wants Why would he spend the same amount of HIS money on you that he does on himself? My (25f) boyfriend (24m) and I have been together for almost a year now. Feeling shitty/like he doesn't want me the way I want him. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1. I find out about these things either when they are beginning to occur and he is busy with them (ex: hangout, event, etc. I am just confused because we have had the conversation before when I have asked why he doesn't get me any gifts for special occasions because it makes me feel like he doesn't care about me. You have a right to demand better treatment or remove yourself from the situation. My boyfriend and I have been together officially 4 months, known each other for about 7. It really annoys me. he’s the type of person There is literally no reason to say that to a partner except to hurt them. tell him you’d like you time. There’s no need to lose any more sleep wondering if he’s no longer And if he doesn’t want to do those things and he doesn’t prioritize you, it’s time for him to step OUT of your life. All I ask is he do these three things and it's like he doesn't care enough to deal with the discomfort that comes with working on communication. One of the biggest problems in our relationship is that he doesn't remember anything I tell him. I just don't know. he also says it’s just because nothing ever comes up that makes him think about me in conversation so he doesn’t know how he would relate it If his answers are "I don't know," or he just repeats regular definitions or whatever gestures you suggested before, then I suspect that he just doesn't love you romantically. If your boyfriend acts distant, ignores you, doesn’t communicate, and avoids you while accusing you of doing these exact things, he is signaling you that he wants out. We’ve put together a list of 11 things your boyfriend might say if he’s thinking My boyfriend talks SO SO SO much and doesn't listen enough . I'm definitely one of those people, and when talking about something interesting I can gab for hours, but both online and in real life my ability to "talk about my day" is effectively zero. He's running his mouth about some dumb shit and you have every right to point out you know things he doesn't know or that his generalizating is ignorant and hurtful. He tells me that he doesn't say anything because it won't change anything but I think its a cop out for him to not take accountability for the things he does that may hurt people. At best, he just thinks that this is how a relationship works. Or perhaps he’s thinking about breaking up. What should I do? I’m very emotional, I’ve been diagnosed with adhd and I can’t help but blurt everything out even if I try to be patient and wait for things. Or he could just really have attachment issues but I don’t think that’s the case. If he doesn't intiate conversations, it's time to move on. Don't write yourself off. If He doesn’t make much money. He doesn't hold things in but we did (and still do) talk a lot about it. Explain to him that you are willing to hear his side of the story, but that, without talking about your feelings, you can’t I don't wanna leave him coz he can't cope with being alone but I don't wanna keep feeling this way. When we first began dating he was good with texting me asking how my day was going and wanting to make plans with me. I’m neurodivergent and my boyfriend isn’t. You have to form a team here. A relationship doesn't need sex to be happy, but if your partner is losing interest in what was once a regular and enjoyable sex life, there might be trouble in the relationship. My (27F) partner (30M) have been together for 5 years and overall have a loving, fun, and easygoing relationship. And the worst part is that he doesn’t tell you what to do about it. Theres nothing wrong with either. This could be a sign that you’re with a partner who doesn’t pay close attention to you, and may just see the relationship as something fun for the moment. 3. Same kinda response I would give my ex when we called. I love him so much, we connect, we laugh: We're best friends. Now, he doesn't forget big things like my name, favorite color, or my favorite pizza toppings. It's like you can't do anything without hearing about it from him. I’m sorry if he’s been gaslighting you but it’s apparent that he doesn’t care if this relationship continues I'm trying to do the distance thing right now with my boyfriend of 1 year. He forgets whatever I say, from mundane things like my favorite book or what I did for the day, to the more important things, like my medical conditions and even my major in college. It sounds cliche but it’s true. You may even wonder if you're the one who's too If you’re having doubts about your relationship, don’t rush to start changing things blindly or guilt-tripping your partner into doing things he doesn’t want to. They're fearful of any criticism or sign of rejection. We plan on getting engaged at the end of the year and married and my family is so excited about jt whereas I don't know how his feels. When he’s reading a book I’ll ask what it’s about. It’s utterly disgraceful that you psychologically analyze her boyfriend into the category of narcissistic personality disorder based upon a single paragraph. I don’t really know where to go from here. My boyfriend and I have known each other for about 11 months and officially together for about 8 almost 9 months. Anniversaries, appointments, important things going on in my life my BF doesn’t remember anything anymore when he used to remember every little thing all the time. He is a great guy, very respectful and supportive. I had been dating a guy for about a year. He argued back that he went to college, but I know that he never passed any classes. Before he was my boyfriend i did sort of warn him about my tendency to slip into depression like slippers but I more than likely made it into a bit of a joke because I honestly was certain i didn't have anything to worry about and thought i could handle it. I will say this, under full anonymity: my wife may be overweight, but I love her body anyway. He lied to me, well intentioned or not. Find someone who actually cares about you. The fact that he chose not to tell you about working from home and going drinking tells me 2 things. He is content with this. If he is decent or somewhat respects you he will; Stop doing it. I can tell my husband anything and I don't keep secrets from him. But is that reasonable to expect for everyone to have? I’m sure other people struggle with similar issues, but their partner just doesn’t tell them the truth. I don’t know if he’s in denial or if he’s just trying to make me stay with him. But how can I know what is bothering him when he doesn't tell me! My(32F) partner (34M) of 10 yrs has rarely initiated reconciliation when we get into an argument. Theres some things im not ready to talk about or just simply want to keep to myself. Honesty is the #1 thing in any relationship that has potential My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years, and I know that he’s the man I want to be with. If he chooses to buy you nice things, so be it, but he doesn't have to. He doesn’t have savings.
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